I've got to share this.
Those of you who have gone through or are currently going through the querying process understand how important it is to put the whole "waiting to hear from the masses" thing out of your mind in order to move on with whatever's next on your plate.
Seriously, though. You send your queries, you move along. You send the materials as they are requested, you move along.
"Move along," of course, means writing something. Revisions, shopping lists, a brand new WIP. Anything. It also means "live your life as though it were normal."
Of course, there's nothing remotely normal about living in a vacuum of what-ifs. But that's what you have to do. This isn't universe-altering stuff. It's just...life as an aspiring author.
All that to say--my brain has done a strange thing. It has decided that none of this is real. I've never written a novel, never queried anyone.
There must be a psychological term for this. (Anyone?)
To be sure, this makes life a lot easier! But it also makes me question my sanity.
Then again, there is nothing remotely sane about this journey. It's exhilarating, character-building, and occasionally fun. But not sane.
You knew that, of course.
All that to say: If you're having trouble dealing with the ups and down, relax and let your brain take charge. If you're lucky, it'll just convince itself that none of it's real, and you'll go along your merry way, smiling.
Either that, or I need to stop writing science fiction.
At any rate, it makes rejections easier to bear. It's not a reflection of you (or your brain), after all. It's about your work--which is NOT (believe it or not) an extension of you.
There you have it, be it wisdom or weirdness.